Mindset

Monday, August 2, 2010

Conquering Your Fears (What I learned on my summer vacation)

For those of you following me on Facebook and Twitter, you know that I recently traveled to Africa for vacation (view photos.) What you may not know was that I also learned a very important life lesson…

It was beautiful and sunny in Victoria Falls, Zimbabwe.  For days I had been contemplating doing a 425 meter zipline across the mighty Zambezi river gorge.

The thought of hanging from a harness on a rope strung from one side of the gorge to the other was frightening but also exhilarating.  I spoke with everyone about it, even my Facebook friends. Had they done it before?  What was it like? Were they glad they did it?  They all loved the experience!  Being in Africa made me want to push my boundaries and be more adventurous.  Yet still I was scared.

Why would I intentionally go off the side of cliff? Is this something a sane person does?  I had my concerns.  Yet still I mulled over the idea until the day came for the zipline excursion.  It was fun to be part of the brave group that said yes to adventure despite the dangers.  I felt cool.  I confidently went through the steps from putting on the harness to marching up to the gorge’s edge.

All of the sudden, fear took hold.  

I stopped and said to the guide, "This is a good idea, right?" fully expecting "yeah it's cool" in return.  But what I heard instead was a life lesson...

"It's good in life to conquer your fears” he said. 

I did a doubletake. He was right.  I stepped up to the edge and took a deep breath.  I let go and zipped through breathtaking scenery.  I didn't feel scared, I felt serene and as if the only things that existed were me and that gorge.  It was peaceful.  I was peaceful.  

When I arrived on the other side of the gorge, I had not only changed countries (Victoria Falls spans Zambia and Zimbabwe), I had changed perspective.

Fear wasn't going to stop me from having beautiful, exhilarating experiences. It is good in life to conquer your fears.  

I share this story because making a career change or going after your ideal career can be just as scary. You may be at the edge ready to make a leap but stopped in your tracks because of fear.

Take it from me and let these words ring as true in your ears as they did in mine that day, “It’s good in life to conquer your fears.” Say it out loud and really feel the power.

I did it and you can too. Share your fears and how you’ve conquered them (or would like to).  I’d love to hear your stories!

Posted by maggie at 10:51 PM
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Friday, June 25, 2010

Career Lessons Learned (So Far) From The World Cup

If you're not one of the billions who've been watching World Cup Soccer, you're missing out on some key career lessons.  

Now I understand, you can't watch every game over the course of a month. (The World Cup lasts from June 11th to July 11th.)

But you can get the highlights here of the most important career lessons learned so far from the players, coaches and fans.

(Photo courtesy of US Army Africa.)

Career Lessons Learned from the World Cup

  1. Meditate and visualize your goals coming to fruition -- It works!  Just ask US Midfielder Landon Donovan.  He scored the winning goal with just minutes remaining to push the US into the second round of play.  In a post-game interview, Donovan said he meditates and visualizes himself scoring goals as preparation.  Sounds like a great strategy for any goal -- with a soccer ball or not.  (Learn more on How to psych yourself up for success.)
  2. Don't wait to be tested to bring your "A" game.  The coach for Italy dismissed media reports that his team had delivered lackluster play in their matches stating there was no need to play hard because they hadn't really been tested.  Unfortunately in a must-win game against Slovakia, the Italians came up short and lost the match.  Italy shocked the world by failing to make the second round after having won the entire World Cup tournament in 2006.  Get in the habit of doing your best even when you don't have to.  It will build your confidence and abilities for those times they're needed most.  (Read more on Avoiding the Summer Slump.)
  3. Cooler heads really do prevail.  Unfortunately the French team fell into disarray when conflicts between some players and coaches erupted in a flurry of resignations. France failed to make the second round and the remaining team members headed home.  Emotions can get the best (or rather worst) of us if we let them.  When you're upset with your colleagues or boss, don't react from emotion but calm down first and act with reason.  It may sound easier said than done but in hindsight I'm sure many of the French players and coaches have learned this lesson the hard way and publically.  (Watch my video on How to Deal with a Difficult Boss.) 

I hope you'll join me and catch a match or two of this 2010 World Cup.  Even watching on TV, the energy and excitement are palpable and uplifting.  You might even learn a thing or two you can apply back at the office.

Go USA!!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

 

 

(Second and third photos courtesy of JasonWhat.)

Posted by maggie at 2:32 AM
Sunday, February 7, 2010

Achieving Success with the Right Mindset (and some time away)

Every February I work remotely from a warmer location; not just to get out of the cold northeast but also to get some perspective. This past week was the first of four that I'm happily spending in Florida.  

The idea occurred to me a few years back when reading a great book on how to de-clutter. The author spent half of every year in Bali, Indonesia.  I'm paraphrasing but she said, "I'm not rich.  I just found a way to make happen what's most important to me."  

It changed my mindset.  

I immediately began soul searching to get clearer about what I wanted and realized it was the freedom to work from anywhere. It was a key component on my list of ideal career elements, which I incorporated into my research and job search.  It wasn't long before career coaching presented itself as not only a virtual career but also one well suited to my natural talents and interests.  

That was over 8 years ago and now I'm convinced that if I had not changed my mindset, I would not be where I am today - in sunny Florida doing work I love.  Apparently I am not the only one who has realized this importance of mindset.  

Recently one of the many resourceful people in my network sent me to a great blog written by Fortune Editor-at-Large Patricia Sellers.  Her recent post, "Distract yourself: the key to big wins?" notes how the careers of Serena Williams, Roger Federer and Kim Clijsters have all benefitted from a grounded mindset (found by spending time away from the grind.)  I hope you enjoy reading it as much as I did.

I also hope you get clarity on what you want and most importantly that you get it.  Whether it's a sunset in the Florida Keys or a championship win, you too deserve the career and life of your dreams!

For more "relentless enthusiasm" (as a colleague recently called me on Twitter, you can follow me there at MaggieMistal), check out my Media page for free articles and videos on how to Soul Search, Research and Job Search into your ideal career.  Tune into my radio show Fridays at 4pm ET/1pm PT as I profile others who are also following their dreams.  

Isn't it time you joined us?

(Photo courtesy of my iPhone.) 

 

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