Recently I became a first-time mom to a 28-week preemie who is thankfully (now 9 weeks later) out of the hospital intensive care. He’s with my husband and I and though it was hard to be separated from him for so long, we are just now getting to know what it’s like to be working parents.
Since we're both entrepreneurs, our plan has always been to share childcare responsibilities. We want to be hands-on parents seeing the daily growth and development of our son. However, less than a week into this new reality and already it's a challenge to find time for everything.
Career versus Family - can you really have it all?
I've coached working parents for years and the first step I take them through is to soul search and clarify what "having it all" means. We talk about the natural shift in priorities that occurs when you have a child and how it's okay to have an "identity crisis" of sorts as you start to measure success by more than just salary and title.
If you're unsure about what you really want, start with the end in mind. Fast forward to your 80th birthday - what will you look back on and be most proud of - hours spent at the office or time spent playing with your child? There's no right answer and though others may have their opinions, ultimately the best choice is the one that makes you happy.
Given your example, will your child learn that work is a chore or a means to fulfillment?Children take cues from their parents about what role work plays in their lives. So with my clients we also talk about one of the biggest work life myths - that you have to sacrifice your dreams because you have a family to think about. It doesn't have to be an either-or choice. My Mom decided to have it all by making a career change at age 28 AFTER having 3 kids. I watched her go through medical school and graduate to become a well-respected physician in our community. By doing so, she showed me its never too late to change careers and find great success. (Of course she didn't have to miss out on becoming a grandmother either!)
Forget the mommy wars let’s have some productive conversation.
Would you go after your dream job even though you had a family to think about or would you put your dreams on the back burner? Do you feel its a daily struggle of career versus family? Is sacrifice a good thing?
Comment here and weigh in on my SIRIUSXM SHOW Fridays at 4p ET/1pm PT (Call in # 1-866-675-6675).
This week, hear work/life advice from special guest Emmy-award winning actress Patricia Heaton(Debra from Everybody Loves Raymond fame).Talk about someone who has it all - Patricia has a thriving career and 4 sons!
Mildred Vermont – "Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs... since the payment is pure love."
In my book, Social Networking for Career Success, one of my mantras is that there is no one social network for all job seekers. Some people are more naturally talented writers, others may be terrific on video, and some people are great talkers, so a radio show may be good for them. (I am thrilled to include great tips in the book about how to succeed with your own radio show from Maggie. Of course, not everyone can have a show on SIRIUS, but podcasts and online options are available for the rest of us!)
Even though I don’t like to mandate social networks, I make one exception: LinkedIn is an absolute “must have” network for professionals and careerists. It has become the go-to network for recruiters and hiring managers seeking skilled professionals. Even if you don’t use any other social networking tools, make a point to create a strong, targeted profile on LinkedIn to help people who may be looking for someone with your skills and experience find you.
To maintain a complete LinkedIn profile, it’s important to include:
Your photo, preferably a close-up of your face, looking friendly and approachable.
A professional headline. This is not the same as a job title, although it may include a job title. It is what people will see when they look through lists of people on LinkedIn, so be sure to include key words describing you and what you offer. Include descriptions of your expertise as they relate to your target jobs.
Personalize your LinkedIn URL by selecting “Edit Profile” and scrolling down to the LinkedIn URL for your public profile. Choose “Edit” and scroll down to your public profile URL. If possible, set this to include your first and last names (no space). If that is not available, consider including a middle initial, or even words related to your business. For example, “JohnSmithPR.”
Include your current position and at least two past positions, even if they were internships or relevant volunteer jobs.
Complete the education section.
Create an in-depth, personalized bio for the summary. Think about a story to hook the reader and make them want to know more about you.
Highlight your specialties by including them as a list of keywords or phrases. (Find the best keywords by reviewing job descriptions, company websites and blogs and industry publications and conference programs.)
Display at least three recommendations from employers (preferred) or colleagues.
Completing these steps will allow you to have a 100% complete profile, which helps people find you via LinkedIn for career opportunities.
--CNN named Miriam Salpeter a “top 10 job tweeter you should be following” and Monster.com included her in “The Monster 11 for 2011: Career Experts Who Can Help Your Search.” She teaches job seekers and entrepreneurs how to leverage social media, writes resumes and helps clients succeed with their goals. Miriam writes for U.S. News & World Report’s “On Careers” column and blogs at KeppieCareers.com and GetASocialResume.com.